• Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Relationship & Marriage Counselling

  • Based in Sevenoaks, Kent, relationship specialist Helen Mia Harris helps married and non-married couples overcome relationship challenges and learn how to reconnect and revitalise a tired or struggling relationship. Helen Mia successfully applies her proven unique approach to couples counselling, individuals relationship counselling, marriage coaching, and couples therapy. Building stronger relationships with emotionally focused couples therapy.

    Helen Mia’s warmth, insight and attentiveness will help you through this challenging time to either discover a more secure emotional attachment bond or find clarity as to why certain problems keep reoccurring, enabling you to find a way forward and make a safe, effective decision for you and your relationship. Relationship issues don’t just affect the individual or couple involved, they also affect the entire family.

    Helen Mia helps partners to communicate more effectively and learn how to listen more closely, working with integrity and respect for all parties.

  • Is Your Relationship in Crisis? How to tell if you need Couples Therapy?

    • Does your marriage lack the intimacy, closeness and passion that it once had?
    • Do you feel unappreciated and taken for granted by your spouse?
    • Do you feel as though you see things from two completely different viewpoints, and are constantly arguing as a result?
    • Do you feel invisible to your spouse, ignored and unheard?
    • Do you feel unable to communicate your feelings properly, because whenever you do, it always results in another row, or emotional withdrawal?
    • Does your relationship lack an emotional connection?
    • Do you feel unloved, insecure and no longer appreciated?
    • Do you have mounting resentments and feel constantly disappointed with your partner?
    • Do you feel as though you’re “living alone together”, no longer connected like you once were?
    • Do you feel that you have lost a sense of who you are in the relationship?
    • Has your relationship lost the passion and attraction it once had?
    • Have you lost respect for your spouse, or do you worry that they’ve lost respect for you?
  • If you answered “YES” to five or more of these questions, then it’s important to discover the reason for your communication and connection failing in your marriage/relationship, and the tools you need to rebuild it.

    The fact is, couples are often unaware of why this distance has grown between them. They’re unsure how to meet their partner’s needs, which can result in a lack of communication, empathy, mutual respect and appreciation.

    Bespoke Marriage Counselling & Relationship Therapy Sessions

    Helen Mia’s bespoke marriage counselling and relationship therapy sessions will help you discover what is possible, providing you with the practical strategies to move forward and understand the underlying issues that are hindering communication, connection and closeness.

    Once you understand each other’s wants and needs properly, both of you will feel validated and acknowledged, and it’s this that will enable you to rebuild the secure attachment bond that is the foundation of any successful and loving relationship.

    And in as little as three to four 60-minute sessions, I can assure you that you will notice a real, tangible difference in your marriage.

  • We were on the verge of breaking up after a 12 year marriage. Helen gave us the tools to understand each other. We now know that we were emotionally disconnected and didn’t listen or respect one another. Now we are much closer and happier; even the passion and intimacy has returned! We are eternally grateful for your help.

    Carol and Andrew, London

  • A truly uplifting and insightful experience! Helen gets right to the heart of things in her marriage counselling sessions.

    Elizabeth, London

  • Helen offers insightful strategies that gave us the solution to move forward in our marriage and rebuild a secure emotional connection, even though our relationship was fraught with problems.

    Adrian, Kent

  • How Will Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Help You?

    With more than 26 years’ experience as a Couple’s Therapist, Marriage Counsellor, Relationship Therapist and Couple’s Coach, Helen Mia’s expertise lies in helping couples to re-examine the way they “handle” their problems, rather than focusing on the problems themselves.

    Typically, both parties will believe that they are right, and the other is wrong, which subsequently leads to continued and repetitive arguments, followed by a lack of communication, distancing and often avoidant behaviour.

    During these sessions, marriage coach and expert relationship counsellor Helen Mia Harris encourages both parties to speak openly, and most importantly, to hear each other’s voice and version of events, possibly for the first time. As a result, you will finally be able to see the true nature of the relationship, the “dynamics” at work, and what might be hindering closeness and emotional intimacy.

    By allowing both parties to be heard and understood, Helen Mia opens the door to real and honest communication, enabling couples to finally end the vicious cycle of pregnant silences, conflict, indifference and resentment that can impact so many marriages, and instead build a path towards healthy communication, deeper connection, empathy, respect, trust, and a mutually loving, happy relationship.

  • Your private and confidential sessions either take place in warm and pleasant surroundings or many may prefer having their consultation via a Zoom meeting. Helen Mia works with sensitivity, care and attentiveness and after only one or two sessions with her, you will experience a tangible difference to any tender issue and see a way forward.

    These sessions can be helpful when experiencing heartbreak, rejection, abandonment, insecurity, love and loss, separation anxiety, emotional trauma and marital difficulties.